For some reason, the majority of men on dating apps seem to just want a penpal. I hate it. I don’t get it. The only reason I can think of is that they are not really who their profiles say they are, they are married, or they are just get excited by having someone to text…I say it in my profile – I am not looking for a pen pal, I want to meet you and find out if we get along. Apparently that does not get the message across.
I started chatting with this man who seemed normal and pleasant but it was just very surface conversation “how was your day?” “what are you doing this weekend?” kind of thing. After about two weeks of this, with no move to actually meet, I kind of got over it. Well then a week or so later he popped in my inbox again with a similar message. So I responded. This happened over and over for about two months.
Finally, I asked him what the point of this small talk was without meeting. His response? He wanted to get to know me before asking me out. … … That makes sense, except you were not trying to get to know me at all!!?? “How are you?” is not really getting at my inner dreams and life goals.
So I said why don’t we get together and he agreed. I asked if he was free Friday after work, he said he was, I said perfect. This was all on Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday came and went – no new messages. Friday was upon us. Friday afternoon. Friday at 5pm. Nothing, we had not agreed on a spot or a time and there was nothing. Total ghost.
Sure, I could have messaged him to confirm the details but I had already been forward to plan this…I figure if he was not willing to reach out to confirm then he was not real. So I just deleted the match. Ugh!
This is what I hate about the apps. Such a waste of time and effort. Next!