Nope! I mean, ideally, I would meet the perfect person for me, we would fall madly in love within minutes and he would also want a baby asap. But I have been waiting for this to happen for at least 5 years now and if I was holding my breath I would be long dead.
Everyone says “it will happen when you least expect it”. This is the dumbest thing ever. Over the years I have gone through phases of actively dating, and phases of not looking at all. Neither has resulted in a partner. 9.9/10 the people saying this are in a happy relationship and have been for years. Dumb.
So I am taking matters into my own hands…or putting into my own uterus? But that does not mean I am going to stop dating and trying to find Mr.Right-for-me. IUI might take months, and realistically, if October is a trial month, that means I cannot inseminate until I ovulate in November. That gives me over a month to find a man! Totally doable right? …
So now I will be documenting my dating life as well as my steps to get a bun in my oven. I have been on four first dates in the last two weeks (yes even with COVID – all outside and safe!) but have not disclosed my search for a baby daddy. I have asked about kids…and even brought up the fact that I would be willing to do it solo and one guy thought this was the worst idea. Another told me to really wait and think about kids because he didn’t think I had given it any thought…I literally just met him. How would he know?
I will admit though that since making this decision, as I am out and about I find myself looking at every many I pass and thinking “Would he be my baby daddy? Should I ask him?”. I have yet to listen to my inner voice but man am I tempted.