I have! When I woke up on July 8th and realized I wanted a baby I immediately messaged my mum. I also told my best friend that day. Since then, I have told a few close girlfriends and my parents. I am really fortunate because everyone thinks it is a great idea, they are really supportive and excited for me. At least this is what they all tell me, but I think they would let me know if they thought otherwise as this is a pretty big life decision and I can’t really take it back once I’ve got the tiny human.
I don’t have a huge friend group, more like 5 or 6 close girlfriends but they would only see each other at my birthday (or hopefully my baby shower?!). All but one are married/in committed relationships and most have babies of their own. I have told pretty much all of my closest girlfriends of my plan and even ended up telling my chiropractor but I think he thought I was kidding.
The one person I was really unsure about telling was my dad but he seems to be so on board! I was home last weekend and my mum and I were talking and I said something about the donor and he chimed in “donor for what?”; I responded with “the sperm I need!” and he just said, “oh right”. We even showed him some of the donor profiles online and he had some opinions to share. I’m pretty sure the reason he is so okay with it is because he will get a grandchild and he doesn’t have to think about his daughter having sex.
Overall I am really fortunate to have such a supportive group as I do know that this is not going to be easy. Friends tell me the stories of their pregnancies, births, and just lives with babies and it does not sound easy – and that is with two parents. So having the support network that I have is really important to me, I don’t know if I would be going through this without it. I am scared that I will have a horrendous pregnancy, nightmarish birth, and super fussy baby…but one step at a time.