I usually try to keep first dates to a drink (not necessarily alcoholic). I find that a beverage is a good way to do it as you are not committing yourself for too long – it is easy to get out of! Think about it, by the time you sit down at a restaurant, chat for a little, the server comes, you look through the menu, chat some more, maybe order an app, then main, it finally arrives, etc. you are committing yourself for at least 1.5 hours – likely longer. And if the date really is not going well, well sure you could make an excuse and leave, it is just not as easy.
That being said, for this date we did go for dinner as we had chatted on the phone a couple of times and it was a weekend so why not. He was a nice guy, again, easy conversation but on the outset I just didn’t feel it. He also does not want a baby right now. I told him I want one and then he went on and on about how he doesn’t think I have thought about it enough, how I really need to consider it more, how he hopes I don’t make any major decisions too soon, etc.
Pardon? You literally met me 30 minutes ago, how do you know how long I have been considering this?! Okay fine, only since July…but he didn’t know that! Aside from that, he doesn’t live in Toronto and has family ties keeping him where he is. I am not planning on moving any time soon so that would also pose an issue.
Oh, and he was late. Like 40 minutes late. Fine, he was driving to me and it took him over an hour and I was very grateful that he did want to come to me instead of meeting in-between or asking me to go to his area, but still…If I was going on a first date and knew that the drive would be about an hour and then it was rush hour, I would factor that in…But maybe that’s just me?